Do you have to … or do you choose to?
When you flip a coin … heads or tails … what are the signs? If you flip that coin to help you decide on one of two options, and as soon as the coin leaves your thumb you find yourself thinking: “be heads, be heads,” you already know what you really want. There is really no need to flip the coin at all.
How often do you know something deep in your gut, but you find yourself using your brain to rationalize away from that feeling? If you’re like most people, it happens a lot. Our conditioning has us believing that logic is more trustworthy than intuition, especially in the world of work.
Albert Einstein said it like this:
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
If you are fearlessly honest with yourself, you know this awareness is the truth. There is something beyond your own logical mind. You realize, when you really ponder it, that knowingness (that gut intuition) is from spirit and knowledge can be a way for your ego to get you trapped into believing that it’s only true if you can see it, smell it, taste it, touch it or hear it.
So you hear or see or smell or taste or touch something that seems too good to be true. It’s beyond your five physical senses’ ability to grasp it so it can’t possibly be true.
Is freedom true? Is oxygen? Is love? Is gravity? Do any of those concepts have roots in those five physical senses? Does your inability or unwillingness to believe in them make them less true and real concepts?
You have choices. Despite what it may look like on the outside or what someone else tells you or causes you to believe, you always have choices. And choice and decision are separate concepts.
Take a look at this excerpt from a Forbes Magazine article:
“From psychological investigations, we know that the difference stems from the concepts of freedom and determinism, where freedom is the place of choice and determinism is the point of decision. A little confusing? I’ll explain.
Determinism is the doctrine that, in its absolute form, all events, including human action, are ultimately determined by causes external to the will. Thus, we can’t really choose anything. All has been pre-determined.
“Freedom, on the other hand, if absolute, means just what you think it does: the ability to choose among different alternatives unfettered by other considerations and restraints. Nothing has been pre-determined.
“So are the determinists right that all is pre-determined? Probably not, although we have to admit that decisions are usually influenced by outside factors. Similarly, absolute freedom is rare — constraint, in some form or another, is the norm.
Don’t rush to the point of decision. Reconnect to the place of choice first.
“Effective decision making can only flow from a place of choice. You must make a conscious effort to free yourself from fear and perceived limitations to get there. You must open your mind to all possibilities, without feeling restricted. When you are there, nothing seems like an insurmountable problem. Instead, there are only opportunities for growth and discovery. Nothing can stop you.”
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”
In his book The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho worded it like this:
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. Each thing has to transform itself into something better, and to acquire a new Personal Legend, until, someday, the Soul of the World becomes one thing only.”
In Illusions, Richard Bach wrote:
“You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however.”
W. H. Murray was a Scottish mountaineer and writer who knew something about making a decision and being committed to it:
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” -W. H. Murray
In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill dedicated an entire chapter to Decision, and realized that it is one of the 13 principles of success, presumably because not everyone is great at it.
So it would make sense that decisions that come from choice are more likely to produce desired results. Decisions that come from forced compliance will produce less favorable results because of the emotion attached.
As Tony Robbins has been credited with saying: how many of us “should” all over ourselves? No one likes to be “should” upon. There must be another way to inspire change and transformation in ourselves and, eventually, others through our example.
I HAVE to or I CHOOSE to?
They may seem the same on the outside – but, like a box of chocolates, they are completely opposite on the inside.
Which do you prefer?